Is it time? For a new chapter in your life?
Where you consciously start choosing YOU?
Have you ever thought about what you are doing to yourself every time you say yes when deep down you want to say no?
Your objectives for acting this way may possibly have to do with loyalty. Or love. Or friendship.
Or, has it something to do with wanting to be thought of as a "nice person"? Agreeable? Pleasant? Is it perhaps important to you that people choose you because of how amazing you are for always showing up?
If this is you - at least part of you - is acting this way being authentic? To YOU?
It takes practice learning to be honest and authentic by saying no when that is what you truly feel like saying. It has nothing whatsoever to do with selfishness.
Saying yes when what you want to say is no is actually abusing yourself. It's abandoning yourself.
Each time you the being feel like saying no and what comes out of your mouth is yes (and a smile?) is a disservice to you AND the other person.
Why? Because you are showing up as an unauthentic version of you. A lesser version. A person aiming to please more than anything.
You deprive yourself of the possibility of showing the other person who you truly are. Being a people pleaser will not make people choose you. At least not the "right" people.
I will add to this that burnout is a real thing. And abandoning yourself - your core being - will eventually lead to some level of burnout. I promise; you do not want to go there!
Start choosing YOU. And likeminded people will choose you too. Because they see, feel and know who you are. What kind of person you are.
Sincere relationships between people are based on the ability to see the other person for who he or she truly is. Not a watered down, edited, unauthentic version.
If no is what you want to say, then honour yourself and your boundaries by letting people know what you are available for.
Don't abuse yourself, abandon yourself or invite people to walk all over you by saying yes when you mean no.
Be YOU. Be real. Know what you are available for. People will love that about you. You will remember more of who you are and people will choose you because of it.
Start that new chapter in your life. Where you confidently choose YOU!
Oh, and by the way:
NO is a complete sentence!
Till next time,
Make it about ease and JOY! And remember: Start choosing YOU!